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Cake day: December 30th, 2023

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  • My brother and I always enjoyed going out to the woods together when we were young because you couldn’t hear everything humming out there. I still enjoy it for the same reason.

    My hearing isn’t even that great because I’ve spent years around loud noises (industrial and concerts) without hearing protection. But I can still “feel” cheap chargers, bad screens, and florescent lights.



  • I wish I could remember where I read it, but I do remember reading either an article or paper that laid out that when people are victimized, other abusers tend to be able to spot that somehow. Something about body language and it’s all subconscious.

    I don’t have the answer here except to just build a shell and be a dick for a while, but I do want to say I am genuinely sorry you have to deal with that. Always being the victim or always putting on a mask is fucking exhausting and soul draining.



  • There are both groups, and some in-betweeners. I have known several actual white supremacists. They are who they are. They hold “church” and talk about how all this is to keep the white man down.

    I’ve known plenty who are casually racist but are more “I just don’t like them” than anything organized. They believe some of it, but they expect things to work out because they’re white so they don’t organize.

    I’ve known LOADS of people who are just ignorant. They live in a bubble where all they hear is about how the government is trying to give others a leg up and they’re jealous. Where’s their help? They grew up poor. If someone in their past benefited from slavery or oppression it was squandered. They have friends and family of color and genuinely love them. Some of them are white passing POC. They do tremendous harm out of ignorance and because they were lied to. That’s not an absolution, because they could go find the information, but an indictment of the media bubble that they’re in and some of the others they associate with.

    That doesn’t just go for racists. Sexists and LGBTQIA bigots are the same.