In light of what’s happened to Durov and possibly seeing Telegram compromised, I’m doubling my efforts to find a new main messenger. Before you start, not Signal as it’s a bad fit for the needs of me, my family and friends.

So what do I need?

  • The ability to run on multiple devices. Me, my family and friends all have multiple Android devices.
  • The ability to run on desktop. Linux and Windows.
  • Built in sticker repository. What can I say, I like to lazy flirt.
  • Animated Emoji. I like my messenger experience vibrant.
  • Material You. Again with the vibrancy, but also, it’s a sign of modernity.
  • Phone number linking. My family and friends are lazy as hell.
  • Synchronized chats. I don’t mind self hosting a bridge, but the ability to see messages on multiple devices is a must.
  • Voice Messages
  • Video Calls
  • Group Video Calls
  • Stories integrated into as first class citizens
  • Private. If you suggest WhatsApp, I’m assuming you’re either stupid or a troll.

Can anyone recommend anything?

  • Of the Air (cele/celes)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    The only thing that fits most of your needs is Signal, we have looked into this heavily and nothing has as many features, is as easy to use as and has a strong of focus on privacy and security as Signal, so it’s either that or Whatsapp.

    You can techically use signal on multiple devices, by linking them instead of setting them up as each their own ‘host’, if you want it on multiple phones or multiple android devices you’ll likely have to use Molly, I believe this would work, but am unsure.

    Matrix should not be considered because of this:

    https://soatok.blog/2024/08/14/security-issues-in-matrixs-olm-library/

    and Threema is pretty bad historically ( https://soatok.blog/2021/11/05/threema-three-strikes-youre-out/ ), even though they have improved in the last year or two, but their desktop offering is pretty awful, as unless you want to use the beta and use iOS then you have to keep your device attached to the network, on and open on Threema only.

    Signal really is the only option here.

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      I definitely don’t consider WhatsApp to be private, Signal doesn’t support multiple Android devices and Threema sounds pretty useless. So it would seem there’s no real options? Which is a shame.

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        Yup, all the ‘more private’ ones like SimpleX or Session don’t have as many features and are have pretty suspicious funding sources (or involved in crypto).

        WhatsApp might be private but there’s no way to be 100% sure, since it’s closed source and can leak some messages in reports which is intentional.

        Yes and no about Signal supporting multiple Android devices, the Molly fork might be able to if you set it up as a linked device, and we know that apple tablets can be linked in the actual Signal app.

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          Given that SimpleX can be self-hosted, I’m definitely looking at that hopefully. Hopefully someone else develops an app, because cross platform apps are bullshit.

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            Sadly it won’t meet and/all of your requirements, it is pretty barebones on features and doesn’t really offer message syncing, you have to create a new account for every device, last we checked.

            What do you mean cross platform apps are bullshit?

            We don’t think more and more messaging apps solves anything really, it just fractures userbases more and more. The best thing folks can do is use the apps that are the most likely for folks to use and work on improving them either by coding for them, or keeping on suggesting and voting for ideas until they get implimented.

            Moving again and again to newest app of the week 562 won’t make the situation any better, not to mention most of them probably haven’t had security audits at all or very sparsely if they have, so their privacy and security can’t really be verified.

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              What do you mean cross platform apps are bullshit?

              You’ll be pained to find a world-class app that’s written on a cross platform base. They tend to miss the intricacies of native design conventions and tend to be sluggish.

              We don’t think more and more messaging apps solves anything really, it just fractures userbases more and more. The best thing folks can do is use the apps that are the most likely for folks to use and work on improving them either by coding for them, or keeping on suggesting and voting for ideas until they get implimented.

              I was actually part of the discussions for Signal implementing stories and the same type of people who were saying they didn’t see the point in adding stories and wanted an option to turn them off, also were vocal enough to get them put in a tab. It’s like the vocal minorities on Reddit that want small phones and think front facing cameras are a waste of time. They get in the way of real progress. What my 18 year old cousin wants from a messenger app is very different to what you or even I want, but the key to growth is definitely developing with the 18 year old in mind.

              Sorry, just noticed your pronouns in your username. How do I use them properly? Do I replace you with cele and your with celes?

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                That’s fair, although really that’s unfortunately because from what we know of there’s no really good cross platform languages/toolkits etc, so usually we do have to end up with some half-assed solution or folks having to maintain multiple native code bases. Either situation isn’t ideal, but until something that provides the option for genuine security and native looks that works well across all platforms is developed we’ll be kind of stuck.

                Oh, sad. Hopefully we can kick up enough of a fuss to evetually get it moved. We don’t know if we agree entirely that developing for only one demographic is always the best idea, but more demographics should be considered for sure, yeah.

                No, cele/celes are third person pronouns, not second person, our second person pronouns are y’all etc.

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                  It reminds me of how Mozilla was hemorrhaging contributors but kept trying to stick to IRC. I’m definitely not saying don’t support the legacy contributors, but be aware of what modern demographics want to use and why, because if you’re not moving forward, you’re being left behind.

                  And thank y’all for the clarification, I’ll be sure to get them right in future posts. Forgive my earlier ignorance. I didn’t mean to disrespect y’all.

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                    Oof, yeah IRC is awful and sadly we’re forced to use some things that still use IRC to communicate and we’re not really sure why. There does seem to be a derth of users that have moved with the times in leadership positions of important projects.

                    We have seen it recently with some things we use and we hope it strongly forces them to consider being wrong or that it blows up in their faces. Because yeah, we agree if you’re not moving with the times you will hemorage contributors and then you’ll only be left with the ‘old guard’ or worse people (such as fascists not that two aren’t the same many time, heh).

                    Also, Mozilla is just a really poorly run company to begin with and needs some serious restructuring and to stop doing things that serves only itself and not its users. If it genuinely cared about its users and allowed direct donations to firefox perhaps folks would have fewer problems with it.

                    Sure, we are happy to help!