Which is exactly how the real world works. Harm has to be identified to suggest solutions. Otherwise you‘re becoming the helicopter parent that denies their kid every opportunity to learn and cause allergies and other bad outcomes. Translated back to the fediverse: it is great the way it is and improvements are always encouraged. We have much bigger and more pressing issues. This is not it.

You can. Source: I run an instance.

Ah! Nice. I can only encourage you to do so. It is in fact quite a bit of work but I‘m sure its both going to be easier every day and depending on your skillset and setup, you’ll probably have it a lot easier than me. I have like 13 docker stacks atm. only on my vps and another 10 or so on my homeserver. :)

Glad you asked. Yes, mostly. Some things are still janky but most of it works. Whats your setup?

Thanks for the suggestion. Will check it out! :)

Thanks for pointing this out. For now, I’m good with the @matrix but I will keep that in mind. Now the federation seems to be working. I completely threw out the npm config and remade it. Here’s the new logs. One thing doesn’t work anymore though: I’m not receiving messages from my second account and am not getting “is online” notification (green circle). Here’s the current log. https://hastebin.com/share/piyumiloho.yaml (btw the .well-known was because federation tester pointed out there was none and I assumed that was the problem.)

docker-compose.yml https://hastebin.com/share/izeroqiqil.yaml homeserver.yaml https://hastebin.com/share/iquzehofen.yaml npm host file https://hastebin.com/share/alolegoyey.bash synapse log https://hastebin.com/share/abumisutuz.yaml (please note that these errors are not representative of the “functioning but no federation” I had earlier since I seemingly broke something when trying to set it up differently.)

Here is the config! Thanks again for offering your help!

lemmy.hjson https://hastebin.com/share/giqoxejiru.yaml
docker-compose.yml https://hastebin.com/share/osavazijag.yaml
npm host file https://hastebin.com/share/ruyivojoyu.bash
lemmy ui log https://hastebin.com/share/lakurefohe.php

Let me know if you need anything else! :)

Here it is! Thanks again for offering your help.

I definitely will post them. Just gotta get to my pc. Thanks for offering your help.

Very cool! I‘ll post the configs as soon as I am on my computer! Thank you for offering.

Thanks for answering. I‘m using synapse at this point but I‘m not totally set on that. I need to get back to you on the configs. They’re a huge pain to set up. I kinda get why people are using ansible playbooks. Getting the homeserver.hjson and compose file to sync up and generally getting the configs of those to sync up and then needing srv records and custom npm locations really gets to me.

I‘m thinking of hosting a peertube instance just for funzies. It seems like an awesome thing. I just dont „get“ it as much as I get mastodon, lemmy and matrix. Something about the discovery process does not click with me yet. Is anyone making an ios (i know) app soon?

This is wild. I‘m happy I don’t come in contact with this. I would definitely ruin myself due to repeated and persistent noncompliance.

Its people being people I guess. They’re all weird. Some good weird, some bad weird. Thank you for taking the time to critique the article so I don’t need to read it. :)

The groundbreaking finding is that it is in fact not ok go blame the victim. /s

It is obvious for those without ingrained ableism (who therefore dont blame people for being unable to fight against companies that employ psychologists)

In this case, we might slightly misunderstand eachother but seem to be mostly on the same page.

I still dont think the majority governs themselves well because we would be happily living in anarchy then.

Yes, that is correct. People „should“. As they „should drive more carefully“, „smoke less“, „eat healthy“, „consume thoughtfully“ and so on.

We both know this is why we have the rule of law. People are not and will never be fully self governing as long as we have the system we do. We are much too stressed to make the right decisions every time. We used to be able to drive without a seatbelt on, to take cocaine whenever we wanted. Didn’t work very well. It’s simple psychology. Some of us govern themselves mostly well, others dont. That doesn’t mean they can be held responsible for their inability to do so. They need to helped with measures to keep harm away.

so none of the bystanders should help them either

I don’t understand this. Telling someone to vote with their wallet is not helping. The equivalent would be that a victim was „told“ to defend themselves. I am saying we shouldn’t put the responsibility on the victim but the aggressor.

just like with most things in life

That I can agree to. Taking action is hard. But I would say that it is easy to broadly judge „most people“ while this very article says that in the case of social media, the boomers‘ blame for example seems to be ill aligned. Not the people are to blame but the mechanics.

You were faster to answer than my edit.

I can only asssume why the technique hasn’t worked for a long time. But taking the example from social media where it would be voting with your feet (leaving), the product markets for games are defined. And in these markets, I recon the majority is vulnerable, so yes. It is most likely the majority.

Why is that important? It is a significant amount of people. Add up children (who are prone to be peer pressured), the neurodivergent (who are in need of alternative ways to socialize) and those who are not strong of will.

Additionally, it does not have to be a strong tide. Like with dark patterns, it just needs to make it „sufficiently hard“ to switch the vendor and you constitute a lock in (which we are discussing rn).

Edit: imagine we would ask this question when assessing a wheelchair ramp at a mall? It is not important if it’s the majority but if people suffer under this when it is (easily) preventable.