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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • I think there’s a clear subjective difference between consciously spanking a child as a form of discipline, as a rational decision and with the absolute minimum force required for it to work, and hitting a child as a form of punishment guided by negative emotions. In the first case, you’re doing it to improve the child’s life in the long run. In the second, you’re just being violent towards someone weaker than you because you’re the lowest of the low.

    It’s like the difference between a tasteful nude photograph meant to highlight the beauty of the human body and porn, or between using dissonance in music to create tension and using it because you’re a bad composer. There isn’t a set of general, objective rules to distinguish the two, but if you see it, you immediately know which one it is.






  • I don’t resent anyone else for not being able to do what I do, because I’m aware that I can’t do stuff that others can.

    IQ is just one kind of intelligence. I have a high IQ (or had one ten years ago when I took a test, anyway), good body awareness, passable social intelligence and really, really low emotional intelligence. I suck at dealing with my feelings. So for every time somebody is complaining about some problem they have where I find the solution trivial, you can bet there’s another time when I’m complaining about some stuff I’m dealing with where they’re thinking “duh, just do this, that’s obvious”.

    I wouldn’t say I “cope” with it. I just accept it. People are different, we all have our strengths and weaknesses, and I think that being bothered by other people’s weaknesses is a huge weakness in itself. I have a bit of that weakness (I think everyone does, it’s frustrating to see people stumble over stuff that you take in stride) but when I feel that way, I just remind myself that it’s my own weakness that makes theirs bother me in the first place, so it’s my problem and my fault, and I move on.


  • The flipside is that unless you’re hired to be someone’s teacher, nobody is obligated to explain things to anybody else. There are also “the journey is the destination” type questions where the answer doesn’t matter as much as the process of figuring it out yourself. Like science experiments in school where the answer is already known and the point is to teach kids certain ways of thinking or how to use certain tools. So yeah, there are legitimate reasons to say that, but a lot of the time it is indeed a cop-out. And your example is absolutely one of those times.