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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • The issue I’m having is that yours is a country which sees the far right as something that will always exist with such power. I know the mechanics of it all, what I’m routinely shocked by is the back that the bar is on the floor and the country as a whole just cannot seem to get over it. The Democrats should not be the best you really have to offer, they should be your right-wing party and they should struggle but instead the USA handed a dictator the popular vote and a third of the place didn’t even participate either way.

    It isn’t the existence of good people, it’s the complete domination by evil, or even just apathetic, people. I’m genuinely sorry that you’re suffering but, especially as a Canadian, it does not change my opinion about the landfill inferno that is the USA.


  • I feel less and less sad for people in the USA as time goes on because of exactly what you say. How did they not see it coming? HOOOOOW? And how did a third push for it, a third sorta try to help, and the other third maybe or maybe not just still doesn’t even know what’s happening?



  • If we’re were forcefully taken to another country and then had children at some point I would talk to them about the people left behind and where I came from.

    That’s not how that works, especially when their cultures were specifically purged by the slavers. Your comment reads like the equivalent of saying “I would have just roundhouse kicked the gun away and saved the day” as if it’s the slaves’ fault for not giving their kids rich lessons on their history. It’s amazing that even some of it survived at all.




  • I think just go about your business assuming her friend kept it on the down-low, and it doesn’t seem like it’s led to her treating you worse so all good. Nothing to be embarrassed about if you trust her to be a good person, which you seem to.

    I get it, of course, it’s certainly a little awkward and not a position I would want to be in. I’ll bet the not knowing if she knows is probably worse than if you could know for sure she does, eh?



  • You’re gunna be sad, and that makes sense. I mean, why wouldn’t you be? You’ll have moments of being mad at them, too, and that’s ok as long you don’t act out on those feelings.

    It’s important to keep yourself occupied, not to distract from the pain but keep yourself moving forward and remind yourself that you are your own person and have value outside of the relationship, alone or with friends or however, you are still a person and not just their ex. You’ll be sad a lot, and some days forward will feel like backwards, but you’ll get there in time.

    I wrote a journal, just on my phone, for a year. It’s amazing how much you’re expecting to write about how bad your day had gone but by the time you get writing you’ve had time to be outside of the big feelings for a bit and most days are, even if not great, better than you’d thought.

    If you can get access to a therapist, and even if all you do is talk at them, that can be awesome for getting things off your chest, too. It can help you set these feelings down for even an hour and get used to that lightness. Therapy doesn’t have to give you answers, sometimes all it needs to do is give you relief enough to find them on your own.

    And lastly, it’s ok to miss them. You aren’t spiralling when you miss them, you’re thinking about good things and you shouldn’t force yourself away from those thoughts. Give yourself time to recalibrate and get used to the fact that you’ll always have good memories, and in time they will weigh less and not hit as hard.


  • I agree with 95% of this message but don’t love how it sounds like you’re encouraging them to try to force themselves to not think of it as it’ll just come back. I agree that finding things to do is great and will ease you out of the pain but if you’re trying to stay away from the painful thing the best you’ll get is being just unprepared for the next time it, or something similar, happens.

    Hobbies and stuff are awesome for reminding yourself that you still have value outside of the relationship or that you can find new enjoyments and aren’t locked into only one way of being. They can also bring new friends, or at least aquaintances, and that can help bring variety. But trying to force not thinking about the issue will likely just delay it.




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    2 months ago

    French does pronounce most of the letters, they just tend to drop the last one. Then there’s our “though” which is often shortened to “tho” with no consequence. English is not creative, either, most of the time the words were actually pronounced in a way that matches and time changed how we spoke them. That and we just kinda lifted the spelling of loan words but said them differently because whichever of our many accents at the time made it otherwise uncomfortable to say.


  • The Concorde was just loud and cost more money to run, and in 27 years had only one fatal accident wherein a DC-10(American designed) left a piece of debris on the runway which ultimately kicked off the incident. It was a pretty good plane from my understanding.

    If we’re calling out specifics, the Airbus is an incredibly successful plane.