I’m in my late 20s and I’m on the same boat. Especially when it comes to politics. People are often much more than their politics. Unless they’re in the extreme horizontals of their beliefs.
That nice barista at the coffee shop? Could be a liberal. The dude at the office who held the elevator for you? Could be conservative. That’s just the way it works
If you worry that you may be a psychopath, you’re not one!
You’d have framed this question differently. You’d be putting the blame on the other person
“Why is he/she stupid enough to think I’m gaslighting? Can’t they grow up?”