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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • It’s just kind of interesting to be asking the red states about this. Red states were already living in that kind of environment. I feel like it’s the blue states that people should be asking this question to. I live in a red state. I hate the politics here but life isn’t too much different than when I lived in a blue state. I am privileged to be cis tho, so I’d imagine if I were trans I would be terrified. I mean, I’m still a bit scared, but I am a bit of a lucky individual.





  • So generally I use turn signals correctly. But there are a few times I don’t for particular reasons.

    If I am sitting at the rightmost lane at a busy intersection and intend to turn right, I honestly tend to not turn on my right turn signal. The ambiguity of whether or not I’m turning or going straight helps keep assholes behind me from honking at me. I’ve found that an unfortunately large amount of people get impatient when someone in front of them is turning right on red onto a busy road. They honk and act like assholes because they want you to dangerously jump into traffic and not wait for a clearing so they can go sooner.

    I know I could turn on my turn signal and just let an an asshole lay on their horn, but honestly I really truly prefer to avoid that.


  • What do you mean you’ve heard “could of”? Of course you would have heard that. That’s literally how it’s pronounced. It’s just not spelled out that way, as the above person noted. People end up erroneously writing it like that because that’s how you say it out loud.

    Do you pronounce “could’ve” in a way that doesn’t sound like “could of”??? Curious to know what that would sound like.




  • I’m very glad you’re happy where you are. Most people that have had kids have said this to me. But I do occasionally have the rare person who actually has kids but recommends I don’t have them. One of the people that told this to me is incredibly sweet and motherly, even to me, but she seems to be able to look past the feel good hormones and realize that it’s not something a lot of people should be doing.

    When I visit family members or friends who have kids, it honestly seems like a living nightmare. Not that their children are shitty kids, but just the amount of constant work and attention they need and how you can never do anything for yourself ever again. And you have to do this until they grow up and maybe move out. I can barely even take care of myself mentally or physically. Doing that for multiple human beings sounds like literal torture. I will have people tell me they love raising kids while at the same time they have come into work on only few hours sleep because something happened with the kids in the middle of the night.

    I’m convinced the only reason why people get hooked on the whole having kids things is because of some sort of hormonal thing. Observing everything from the outside, it just looks like everyone has Stockholm syndrome or brain slugs.

    I hope you don’t find this offensive and I’m sure you’re a great dad. I know your kids are lucky to have you and we do still need at least SOME people to be willing to be parents for the sake of the human race. But yeah idk.




  • While yeah, things can change over time, a lot of things stay relatively constant…

    A very straight man will likely never be attracted to another man. A very gay man will likely never be attracted to another woman. A bisexual man can be attracted to both. A very asexual man will likely never be attracted to either men or women.

    I get that sexuality has nuance and what I wrote sounds like an oversimplification, but that’s really the jist. People on the internet have a tendency to excessively label every facet of their personality, which isn’t necessarily useful, as you’ve pointed out.

    I’m also on the asexual side of things. It’s not something that has changed throughout my life. I don’t take any medications either, so it’s not medication induced. I have literally always been this way. I’m 30, so I’m way beyond where I would have felt any different at this point.

    I choose to identify somewhat with asexuality because it was confusing as hell growing up and realizing people all want sex but I don’t have that desire or instinct. It’s odd to be different than 99% of the planet that way. Sometimes it seems like I’m missing some sort of minor sense like smell (I can smell, I’m just trying to draw a comparison).

    However, I’ve always been curious to know what sort of an effect something like MDMA could have on me.





  • I suppose I could give it to you for Hillary Clinton because it could have been confusing wrt Bill. But with Harris, I’m not buying it. Both “Barack” and “Obama” are equally distinct to me. We have never had a president Harris before, so it’s plenty distinct enough. It’s not as though presidential candidates always have wildly distinct and uncommon names.