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“Clobber” implies violence, which is somehow even less elegant than the standard phrase that the haphazard “cobble” implies. Given the shitshow of X so far, clobber probably works better even if it’s not the usual way to phrase this at all.

I haven’t looked into the benefits of electroshock with BPD, but I’d recommend taking a look at Dr. Daniel Fox’s workbook for an at-home DBT/attachment theory foucsed program. BPD is one of the few PDs that has been provably shown to be able to change. If you have $30 or so to spare, it can’t hurt.

It’s a slow and difficult process, but yes. There are certain personality disorders that can be provably put into “remission,” and if people with conditions that severe can change their personalities, anyone can.

You have to learn how you’ve been conditioned to think and feel the way you do, and get a lot of self-discipline re: stopping to notice your feelings, figure out why they’re arising, think through the consequences of acting on them, and choosing a better way.

I hate to use terms like this since they’re so often the territory of conspiracy nutjobs, but you’re basically deprogramming yourself. For example, a sensitive person who’s been exposed to a lot of bullying might have learned some pretty intense defensive reaction, so you’d have to stop every time you think “what did he mean by that?” and think of why that’s your first reaction, then choose to believe the best possible meaning even though your feelings scream at you not to. And you’d maybe keep a journal to remind yourself of all the times you were right to assume the best, since a defensive mind discards the positive and overemphasizes the negative.

This sort of thing is best accomplished with the aid of a mental health professional, but there are workbooks you can get if that’s out of cost/feasibility reach for you. You’d need to know your deal to know which ones to focus on.

Corrected archive link - OP’s is missing a character so it’s not working

You said you want good faith discussions, but you preemptively dismissed one of the biggest answers because you don’t think it’s a good solution. Then you have people here disagreeing with you, explaining why, and pointing to examples of it being done successfully, and you continue to completely dismiss a donation as nothing more than a “thank you” - how is this in any way a good faith discussion if any opposing viewpoint is immediately met with this kind of “YOU’RE the problem” response?

I do understand your frustration in those cases in which donations fail, but it seems like you’re not willing to meet us halfway and acknowledge that sometimes, donations succeed, and not by accident or luck. There’s data there - test cases we could be picking apart and seeing what critical mass needs to be reached before an instance can reliably secure donations and what we can do for admins until their instances reach that threshold. But you’re just dismissing it as nonviable even though it clearly works for a lot of places.

That is not good faith.

Do you think maybe being from “one of the whitest states” is why the people you know still track their descent so carefully? I’ve lived all over North America, and your experience definitely doesn’t match up with anywhere I’ve lived. Which is not to invalidate your experience, but I would strongly caution you against assuming it’s the norm. Most people I knew when I was still in the US pretty much settled on a color or just plain “American” for anything past about the third generation.

Using a color descriptor like “white” or “black” isn’t inherently racist for those who don’t care so much about which boats all our very distant relatives were on hundreds of years ago, and it definitely doesn’t preclude empathy for those who are different from us.

I feel like you’re describing a pretty EU point of view here. Which is fine!

But please understand that across the pond, we’ve been mixing people of various descents for so long that “white” is honestly the best descriptor many of us have. I allegedly have 5 different EU countries in my lineage and ain’t nobody got time to get into all that, especially when my ancestry isn’t interesting enough for me to know, let alone for me to inflict on others. Those details are just not that important to who I am today, whereas the experience I had over here because of my skin color had more sway over who I am now.

“Ginger” as a term is not, in itself, derogatory or hateful in my experience.

Describing gingers as soulless or hot-tempered is about the same kind of destructive as describing blondes as stupid, which is to say it’s a silly stereotype that’s often the territory of playful insults between friends, while some small minority of people do run it into the ground and cause real hurt.

(This might be exacerbated by tensions between England and Ireland in that specific area, but… for most of the world “ginger” is a pretty harmless thing.)

You’re not wrong of course, but I really need people to understand that this level of detail is not what a top-level reply to a lower-end technical question is aiming for. Maybe this will be helpful to someone, but I already knew it and didn’t need it sent to me, and it’s going to go above OP’s head. For the average end user, this is abstracted somewhere in the “host stuff” layer, and that’s fine.

Source for fun. Japanese people discussing their favorite countries. The woman in OP is discussing Belgium!

Yeah, doing that does absolutely nothing. Your image viewer still reads it as the webp it is, and it knows to do so seamlessly because it’s reading the file header (the first few bytes of the file) instead of the file extension.

For an analogy, you’re basically just putting a wig on it and pretending it’s your girlfriend from the next school over when everyone in the room knows it’s your skeezy neighbor and is just humoring you.

if there’s like a step I can take to avoid it being a webp

Formats are chosen by the uploaders and hosts, not the end user.

For easy conversion of images from the web, I recommend the FF addon Save webP as PNG or JPEG. Anytime you open an image in its own tab, it pops up with a menu that gives you a quick button to choose the format you’d like to save it in.

Being horny is harmless and fun. There would be a lot more chill in the world if people would stop being so wound up about it.

The best time to learn emergency lifesaving procedures is before you need them, but the second best time is when you need them. Being old fashioned about this could cost a life.

If you have a quicker reference people should bookmark for such cases, the kind thing would be to share it rather than judge. Else, panicking people will inevitably go where they know they can usually get fast instruction about any other topic.

People can also apply the slightest semblance of critical thinking and realize most gaming journalism outfits, no matter their questionable quality, will realize they won’t last long if there are true spoilers in the titles. Therefore this isn’t really a spoiler.

Like they’re obviously going to phrase things in ways that get more engagement, which is why it’s a crucial skill on the internet today that readers need to think critically and not just accept headlines literally.

I’m not saying it’s right, but jfc man, you have to develop skills to engage with the internet you have, not the internet you wish you had. I really feel no sympathy for people who thought this was a spoiler. At least this is a cheap lesson in gullibility instead of a costly one.

But then they wouldn’t get so many clicks and reactions.

Everyone’s malding over spoilers and not realizing this isn’t an actual ending that’s coded into the game, it’s just a funny side effect of a spell that malfunctioned during the end boss.

Again with the fixation on the OP. Let me be more direct: I didn’t ask you.

Sure, but that was just additional context for my question, which was what this poster feels is the difference between changing owners and buying out a company.

What is the difference, in your mind, between changing owners and buying out a company?

To me they’re the same thing and this is an appropriate reply for OP. Is it just a matter of scale for you? (I think we’d all like bigger examples, but this still works)