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Cake day: July 4th, 2023
  • linuxduck@nerdly.devtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What did "that one" person do to you which made you cut them out of your life?
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    1 year ago

    Family started to make fun of my pronouns. I’m just tired of people choosing to be cruel for cruel sake. So I deleted Facebook, essentially cutting them out.

    My mom refused to use pronouns and I’d given her 6 years to learn and grow, cut her out.

    In the past, a coworker on purpose set up a birthday for one of my best friends and didn’t invite me. They made up super weird reasons why I wasn’t invited. I realized he was manipulative… I cut him out…

    Another co-worker was a friend but then one day he wanted to start touching me. I don’t like being touched. I kept asking him to stop, he did it more. Til one day he pushed me into a cold case (we worked at a grocery store). I cut him out.

    Regardless of who I cut out though, there is ALWAYS room to come back if they change and grow up.

    I’m still hoping my mom will before she passes… : /

  • linuxduck@nerdly.devtoTechnology@beehaw.org•Twitter is now XEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I enjoy reading about this change because everytime someone writes something like. Look what x did. My first thought isn’t of Twitter or any social media, it’s: “who’s x?” (As in replacement variable)

    So stupid to rebrand like that. Oh well, never used Twitter anyways

  • linuxduck@nerdly.devtoSelfhosted@lemmy.world•Self hosting a Lemmy instance for just myself?English
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    1 year ago

    I have both a misskey and lemmy instance. For both I used https://servarica.com/ with the cheapest summer deal Flying Fish SSD. It’s like 55 a year. (Or you can pay monthly but I’d highly suggest to save up and pay yearly) (kinda lie, I got a bigger one for lemmy but it’s overkill)

    If you have never installed software before on a VPS (virtual private server) you’re in for a learning ride. If this is the case, be patient, don’t give up.

    Misskey is similar to mastadon. You can also look into calkey which is similar to misskey.

    The hardest part of setting it up was the settings. But since I already know Docker and whatever it was easy going otherwise.

    Though I still don’t have email working… Bleh

    Misskey you add relays. Relays are like lists of instances to join in the fediverse. You then block instances you don’t like.

    Lemmy, you block instances you don’t approve and can set it up so you can white list as well.

    Also important, lemmy doesn’t automatically add other instances. How it works is, any user on your instances has to subscribe to another using the full search key !blah@domain.tld then once ONE user is subscribed, everyone else can search it via keyword.

    Because of that I created a bot that went through all my approved instances and subscribed to all communities in there. It stopped around 3500 subscribed communities. I’ll have to run it again sometime.