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Cake day: November 9th, 2023

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  • I had only just learned the term but I’m probably a black pill, and it’s different.

    My wife and I are having trouble, and divorce is on the table.

    When she asked about what am I going to do? I said I don’t intend to ever get into another relationship. Apparently that was more hurtful than trying to replace her… Go figure.

    I’ve had enough relationships in my time to know they are all pretty much the same, and I think I will be better off just not with anyone else. I’m sure my patterns play into these dynamics, but I try my best to be a good partner and I think I’m just better spending that energy on supporting myself in the time I have left.

    I have kids and don’t want to put any pressure on them (IE I’m careful that I don’t want them to be my emotional support), but hopefully that will allow me to feel enough connection as I descend into hermithood.




  • I’m with the op on this one, I had just about every device under the sun, but mobile internet wasn’t a thing in Australia until we had a proper mobile browser, and that was with the iPhone. I vividly remember whipping out my 3gs to browse the internet, people being amazed, but it also being absolute shit if you were on the move or in most places. I would say ubiquitous reliable mobile internet wasn’t a thing until maybe 2012-13





  • I dunno. I think the messaging is everywhere for how to attract men, but I don’t see too much content about how to treat men either. Certainly historically that was baked into the message, pun not intended, but these days I feel like the message is “you are the table” (so long as you are attractive enough to get a date) which is in part reinforced by the validation from the dating apps women get.

    My wife of 19 years still says “what are you getting me for my anniversary” and I have to remind her that it’s our anniversary. Until recently my happiness hasn’t really occurred to her that is something she should consider. It’s all about her challenges and how I can help her, and what she wants to do, or what she wants to watch on tv. I literally am not given a second thought and told I’m wrong until she gets her way.








  • Ironically I’m enjoying it for the first time ever at the moment.

    We were going away on holidays and would have patchy internet and I needed to make sure my iPad addicted kids has plenty of content for the the road. I decided I was too old and too busy to spend hours stealing YouTube content with shitty apps and just bit the bullet, got a VPN and signed up for a family plan of YouTube plus through Nepal for like $4 / month.

    And now without ads and the bullshit I have for the first time found creators that I like, and I put on videos throughout the day. Also because it comes with music I actually use my google speaker for more than just alarms and timers because I refuse to buy Spotify.

    The $4 is actually good value. I’m as surprised as the next person.