Have you actually tried taking unrepentant time off, where you have no work or social obligations, and grabbing unhealthy snacks and drinks, curling up with a good game, and zoning out of reality for hours or days at a time?
Sex is nice and all, and we’re hard wired to like it more than most activities, but it does not hold a single candle to unrepentant free time when you’re not used to said free time.
According to Pew, around 63% of men under 30 are single, with 32% of all men being single (and about half are married.). Around 57% of all US single adults surveyed (with about equal distribution of men and women) say they’re not looking to date at all. That’s a majority of men that are simply not on the market. Only 42% of single people are looking for romance at all. And the reason I single out men is because between men and women, men who ARE looking to date are looking for serious relationships, where as women are not. (based on majority responses.)
I’m sorry you are so sheltered that everyone that doesn’t conform to your narrow set of experiences is an incel, but the truth is most men aren’t dating.
Source: https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/08/for-valentines-day-5-facts-about-single-americans/