I play guitar and drums. I want to find friends to play with, but I’m not connected into any music circles. Currently, my social circle is only salsa and bachata dancers. Any ideas how I can find others?
ps - I’m pretty socially anxious and autistic, so making friends takes me extra effort and time.
I’m not sure if there’s a music scene near you, but the best thing you can do for yourself and your kinsman is to see as many local shows as possible. If you go to enough, even if you don’t talk to anyone – you may get recognized and make friends without having to do much.
That said, if you see some reoccurring faces – those are usually the people to talk to. They seem to know everyone. Most local music scenes have a brotherhood mentality.
That’s how I integrated myself into the local scene, which provided a nice 10 year stint of touring. From my experience, music scenes tend to draw in a fair amount of neurodivergent people, so you won’t be alone.
Agreed! I would add, if it’s a smaller scene, you may be able to approach the organizers and see about helping to promote the event or do setup/strike/cleanup. Volunteering is a decent way to meet folks IMO