Part of building a relationship is getting to know one another more deeply. And maybe you get to a point in a relationship where you don’t actually like the person you’re with anymore.
If you’re only seeing someone a couple hours a day for a couple days a week, and the person is always trying to impress you, then the impression you get isn’t going to be the same as you get living with that person for months at a time.
If you started dating in high school as immature teenagers and then you develop at different speeds, maybe the person you’re with doesn’t seem as dashing or sophisticated as they did a few years ago. Maybe the person starts drinking or works long hours or is constantly stressed out, and you don’t want to be around that anymore.
Or maybe you date someone for a few months and then you’re just… done. You did that thing, you’re bored, you want a new thing. Going steady isn’t the same as getting married. When you’re young, lots of people look incredibly hot and your hormones will regularly outrun your common sense.
Breaking up sucks. But the biggest mistake you can make as a young person is thinking the puppy love you feel on the first date is going to last forever. If you don’t want this kind of miserable heartbreak, the best advice is to not be so committed early on. Date lots of people. Don’t fixate on a single person just because you get some attention in response. Break up early and break up often. Worry about settling down when you’re older.
It’s a greentext, so take with a grain of salt.
Part of building a relationship is getting to know one another more deeply. And maybe you get to a point in a relationship where you don’t actually like the person you’re with anymore.
If you’re only seeing someone a couple hours a day for a couple days a week, and the person is always trying to impress you, then the impression you get isn’t going to be the same as you get living with that person for months at a time.
If you started dating in high school as immature teenagers and then you develop at different speeds, maybe the person you’re with doesn’t seem as dashing or sophisticated as they did a few years ago. Maybe the person starts drinking or works long hours or is constantly stressed out, and you don’t want to be around that anymore.
Or maybe you date someone for a few months and then you’re just… done. You did that thing, you’re bored, you want a new thing. Going steady isn’t the same as getting married. When you’re young, lots of people look incredibly hot and your hormones will regularly outrun your common sense.
Breaking up sucks. But the biggest mistake you can make as a young person is thinking the puppy love you feel on the first date is going to last forever. If you don’t want this kind of miserable heartbreak, the best advice is to not be so committed early on. Date lots of people. Don’t fixate on a single person just because you get some attention in response. Break up early and break up often. Worry about settling down when you’re older.
Yes, glad you agree with me.