Thanks for your explanation!
Today, I read about spontaneous and responsive desire (I learned something new :)). Spontaneous desire means that you get aroused mentally first, and then your body responds. Responsive desire means that you need to get into the activity first, and only then do you become mentally aroused.
Is this the same thing?
Why the heck does the “cross-posted from” link direct me to BDSM content on Jerboa? 😲