I feel like just responding with a “what’s up?” forces that too, without outwardly saying “…before I answer: why?” Then if they do call and you don’t want to talk, you can ignore it or respond with a rejected call text saying, “can’t talk, what did you need?”
Yeah anything that throws it back on them is what you need, “why’s that?” is my go-to, just never give a definitive answer to their first question, it’s always a trap.
I feel like just responding with a “what’s up?” forces that too, without outwardly saying “…before I answer: why?” Then if they do call and you don’t want to talk, you can ignore it or respond with a rejected call text saying, “can’t talk, what did you need?”
Yeah anything that throws it back on them is what you need, “why’s that?” is my go-to, just never give a definitive answer to their first question, it’s always a trap.