• mriormro@lemmy.world
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      7 months ago

      If you think romantic relationships are just sex+friendship then you’re probably shit at romantic relationships.

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        7 months ago

        Why? I honestly don’t get it. I want my partner to be my best friend, but I don’t think about my other friends sexually even if I do love them like family.

        I don’t want kids so I don’t think about partners in that respect. I do want them to be my last relationship though.

        Edit: I’ll leave it, but I just continued to read the comments and found an answer I understand and agree with. I just never put enough thought into it I suppose.

    • Tanis Nikana@lemmy.world
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      7 months ago

      I mean, I’m asexual and intensely sex-repulsed, and my wife is asexual too, and I am madly in love with her even after being married for eight years.

      It’s romance and friendship; she’s my best friend and wife. I’ll kiss her, hold her hand, rub her back and feet, buy snacks for her, loads of stuff I wouldn’t do with my friends.

      I mean, I bought a house with her. I wouldn’t do that with just anybody.

    • Worx@lemmynsfw.com
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      7 months ago

      No. Imagine two Catholics are dating and don’t want to have sex before marriage - are they just friends? There’s a lot more to romance than just sex, and I feel sorry for the partner of anyone who doesn’t realise this

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        7 months ago

        Like it or not, sexual compatibility and intimacy is very important to a lot of people, and a lot of partners. There is more to a romantic relationship than sex, this is very true. However, downplaying the importance of a key component of a love language does no one any favors.

        • Furball@sh.itjust.works
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          They aren’t downplaying its importance, they are saying that for some people, sex in a romantic relationship isn’t necessary. This doesn’t go for most people and most people do need it in a relationship but everyone’s experience is different