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    wow, i expected a legacy media website to be so ad choked that their page would be unusable, but I didn’t expect my lemmy interface to auto play this video!

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      Both uBlock Origin and my piHole are blocking prod.vodvideo.cbsnews.com (which is the video autoplaying). My browser (Librewolf) also blocks it - as blocked because the triggering iframe has the sandbox flag set.. Stuff like this always is down to your own set up.

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      yeah, this is actually completely unacceptable default behavior, and I’ve been unable to find a setting to change it. I’m on a metered data connection, so the video buffering without me interacting with it first is literally costing me money. I went straight to the comments to avoid this.

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          Yup, especially if you’re on a metered connection. An adblocker has to essentially load the ad in the background so it knows what to block. But a PiHole will simply redirect the ad request entirely, so it never even loads in the first place.

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    Asia is so interesting. My coworker went to Japan for 2 weeks this month and said that they’d just follow in line and stare at you if you’re disturbing the public peace. They were sitting at the end of the seats at a station and supposedly they were expected to get up and move to another seat whenever someone else wanted to sit?

    And everyone would just be organised in lines when waiting. Quite friendly people, but cold. Nobody would be speaking on public transport and it would be deemed impolite.

    My wife from Indonesia also hates it that teenagers are loudly talking to eachother on public transport here in Belgium.

    The whole expectation of respect is so different.

    So I completely believe it, when a bus driver loses his pension package for stealing 7 USD.

    Their streets in Japan are clean while there barely are any public garbage bins available.

    Ah, I need to travel more. But where’s the time. We’re expecting a baby. Do people travel with a baby? Is it safe? Is it insane? I think we’re just gonna have to stay put for 3 years or so.

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      You don’t have to get up because another person gets on, for priority seats they are reserved for those with “special needs” I.e. the elderly or disabled. But it’s common courtesy everywhere to offer your seat to an older/disabled/pregnant passenger.

      People should also absolutely be judged for disturbing the peace if you want to talk to your friend on the train you talk in a quiet respectful volume there is no need to talk loud enough everyone around you can hear it.

      The Japanese just generally have a respect for rules and for not negatively affecting other people

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      They were sitting at the end of the seats at a station and supposedly they were expected to get up and move to another seat whenever someone else wanted to sit?

      10 years in Japan now and I have zero clue what this might be referring to. Unless they were marked as priority seats, anyone can sit there. They might have been loud or disturbing without realizing it or something?

      Nobody would be speaking on public transport and it would be deemed impolite.

      It’s not impolite to talk, it’s impolite to be loud. It’s fantastic, IMO, especially on the early, packed trains going into work in Tokyo and the like; the extra stress of noise is not needed and, many days, it served as a naptime.

      Their streets in Japan are clean while there barely are any public garbage bins available.

      This very much depends upon the area. They’re also clean because people are cleaning up the shit in front of their houses basically every morning. I used to live between some bars and a hotel and those streets were not clean.

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          In my specific case, my status isn’t tied to a job. In the average foreign worker’s case, there’s generally an allowed job-hunting period if employment ends on a work SoR. If unable to find a job then, yes, you would have to leave after your status expires.

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              I have spouse status, but my PR application is in (spousal route, though I was almost at 10 years working in Japan to go that route anyway).

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                Huh, my psychologist said her daughter lives in Japan, is married to a Japanese man and they have a child together. But if she loses her job, then she’d have to leave Japan.

                Trying to connect the dots now, cuz you say you can just permanently stay as spouse.

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                  One can apply for PR via spousal route after 3 years of marriage at least one year of that being in Japan. She might be on a work status and not spouse/dependent of japanese national, for whatever reason.

                  On a work status, shed need to notify immigration withing 14 days of losing her job, but there are ways to get time for job hunting. (14 days from death of spouse on spouse visa, for that matter)

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      Please don’t travel with a baby

      Sincerely,

      Someone tired of sitting in planes next to crying, screaming kids

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        Babies cry on planes because their ears hurt. But there’s a maneuver you can do to manually pop your ears. If you show it to the parents, they can do it with the baby and the baby will shut the fuck up almost immediately.

        Put your thumb in the soft meaty spot behind your earlobe, right behind where your jaw meets your skull. Put your index finger in the Concha Cavum. Your goal is to essentially grab your ear right inside the Anti Tragus.

        Now gently grab, and lift upwards (towards 12 o clock on the above image) by pushing upwards with your thumb. Once you’re lifted, you’re going to slowly and gently roll backwards towards 11 and then 10 o clock. You’re not twisting, you’re just changing the direction that you’re pulling, like moving an analog stick on a game controller. As you continue to roll backwards, (it happens at around the 10 o’ clock position for me, but individual angles may vary from person to person,) your ear canal will suddenly open up (and your ear will pop if it needs to). And I said to go slowly and gently because it happens fairly quickly.

        Your skull has an opening (called the external acoustic meatus) that allows sound to enter your ear canal. You’re basically grabbing the fleshy and cartilaginous parts of your ear canal, and moving it around slightly to stretch the parts inside of the skull opening. This stretching allows trapped pressure to equalize. But that stretching is also why I said to go slowly and gently, as that part of the ear isn’t used to being stretched so you’ll feel it very suddenly.

        Have the parents practice it on themselves first, and then they can do it with the baby. It can be a little difficult for guys to do because baby’s ears are smaller, but usually mom’s fingers are thin enough if she doesn’t have super long nails.

        Source: Have had several flights with crying babies, where I was able to have a frank “hey I don’t want to intrude but you can pop baby’s ears to get them to stop crying” conversation. If you approach them with an attitude of “I just want to help baby feel better” instead of being pissed that the baby is crying, the parents are likely to be receptive; No parent wants to see that their child is in pain.

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          Thanks for this info, I’ve actually done this process accidently by pulling my earlobes before, I’m glad I finally have an explanation on that slight pop I hear when I do that

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            When I was very young (and screaming on a flight), I remember a flight attendant bringing two Styrofoam cups to my mom to put over my ears. It helped immensely! This might be easier than the technique described above? I’ll read again and try this though.

            Pressure changes still hurt me immensely, but I’ve developed my own way of dealing with it.

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        No use fighting these egotistical assholes; they love making their kids the problem of other people. So that they won’t have to suffer in regret alone.

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      We’re expecting a baby. Do people travel with a baby? Is it safe? Is it insane? I think we’re just gonna have to stay put for 3 years or so.

      If your baby isn’t super fussy, the transportation difficulty (in our experience) is more in the logistics getting to/from airport, and dealing with other ground transportation. We just flew 5+hrs (coast to coast, US) with a 2mo and a ~3yo, and it was a piece of cake (typing that, I’ve jinxed the return flight…).

      We haven’t done international travel with our kids yet, but we will eventually. When I was 2 my family went to Europe — some countries were meh with respect to kids, but Italy (from my folks’ retelling) was fantastic, as there is (or was) a big cultural love for young kids.

      YMMV of course, but it’s absolutely doable! Kids — even starting as babies — have personalities, and you’ll get a sense of what’s appropriate with yours. Good luck!

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      My parents flew from Denmark to Canada for a month, when I was 3 months old. So I reckon you could. Depends on you, your partner, and your kid, on whether you feel comfortable travelling.

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        Small kids are sick all the time usually with basic stuff but you’ll gave to know your stuff (like when go get a real doctor).

        Or get lucky like OP ;-) /jk

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      In this thread: people who dont understand japanese culture. Except this guy, who heard the truth of japan from their coworker.

      What is said is correct.
      Also, do you live or work on the region of ghent by any chance?

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        Relatively close to Ghent, you trying to dox me? 🌝

        I say too many socially unacceptable things on the internet, Timmy.

        My boss would look like when signing my C4:

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          Oh, same haha. No, its just that i had a coworker return from japan last week too so was checking if we might be talking about the same person haha. Filip lol

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      In my experience, the younger they are the easier it is to travel. Especially <3 years of age.

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        Not for people around you, but sure, who cares about them

        And to be clear I’m not saying folks with kids can’t travel. Sometimes people die, sometimes there’s a major life event. But we’re talking about a generic you having a vacation your kid won’t remember. This is about you hurting others so you can have fun after making the choice to have a child. The world sure as shit doesn’t need more kids.

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          If you think YOURE annoyed by the kid, just imagine how the parents must feel with everyone hating them for it, too! Think of the poor, helpless parent who had no other choice but to put an infant on an airplane

          Every time this topic came up on Reddit. Babies should be banned from planes or cost more to take on them

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            I don’t want them to cost more unless I’m getting paid. I don’t need delta to get more cash.

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      We flew to Japan when our first kid was 9 months old. It was great.

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        They got my mom like that… like literally a month before her retirement (25-something years working for them). Then HR offered her job back (a week later) because they had fucked up the paper trail, and knew it could come back on them

        I advised her to lawyer-up, because it was an obvious wrongful termination/discrimination. But alas, she’s too sweet for her own good and happily retired now

        She babysat for extra income and funsies (because she loves kids and was bored) spends a LOT more time with her grand-babies, and just continued being her sweet self, without having to deal with the grind. She could’ve been better off, had they not fucked her over; but it just wasn’t a priority for her to go through the rigamaro. I’ll always respect her for it

        But also… man, I wish she would’ve fucked those people up in court, just outta principle. I hope to be as strong in the real way, like her one day

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          I’m glad that such a shitty situation ended up being OK for your mom. ✌️ Fuck corporate America. I have so many stories from my old job like this. Leadership will handwring in their third homes and yachts.

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    “If our strict measures were not accepted, then our organization could become careless and it could result in eroding the public’s trust,” he said.

    They don’t think telling this guy to starve in his old age over $7 will undermine public trust? It’s undermining my trust in this official’s judgment right now!

    I guess I don’t live in Kyoto so they probably don’t give a rat’s ass what I think.

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      I think in that culture money follows social appreciation, not value. And that is connected to obedience and ritual. It’s as if his work in those decades was service as it should be, then he committed a sacrilege.

      And he’s low in hierarchy. Asians love hierarchies.

      I don’t know. Maybe that work ethic is wrong, in most manga\anime I’ve seen characters struggle against it, and then maybe deliver through pure genius outside it, only to be appreciated as “barely did it”.

      But they have a point too about erosion. I see it everywhere.

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      In all fairness, it appears that the amount is $84K total, not per year. $84K is not much of a retirement and would only yield about $280/month following the 4% rule. It’s still a wildly disproportionate punishment and likely represents a significant portion of this man’s retirement.

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      The punishment is 12,000x the crime.

      There really should be a cap on this sort of thing.

      But hey, I once got suspended in school for stealing 5 cents. I even admitted to quite openly.

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      Lies when stealing the money

      Lies when asked to confess, likely so they could find a way to keep him on staff if he told the truth.

      Sorry dude, honesty counts.

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            When imposing punishment, there is a burden of proof. So the punishment is for $7 theft until something substantiates otherwise.

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            I agree he fucked up bad enough to get fired and for some kind of punitive fine, but 84k worth of pension (the entire pension, which is itself a problem) is entirely too much. It completely pulls the rug out of the rest of his life, which is also when he’ll be most vulnerable and least able to push through hardships. That pension is also too little to truly retire on, maybe the old man has been on survival mode for a long time. Maybe. I was once poor enough that 15 dollars’ worth of an unexpected expense caused enough anxiety to make me want to recalculate my budget that month. I was in college with a minimum wage job and doing everything I could to save a dollar and still only keeping my head above water, relying on sharing a room for rent. Would I have risked my job? Hell no. But would I have taken 7$ from somewhere if I felt I could truly get away with it and I was taking it from some large organization that is guaranteed to stay running from government? Maybe. It might mean a dinner I really needed to keep going. It would still weigh on my conscience, but your brain and sense of self can change when you’re that vulnerable for that long.

            It took many years for me to undo some of the effects that has on your sympathetic system of the brain. Still probably fuels some things.

            I could easily see how someone could become callous to such small thefts as a wrong deed and even somewhat justified if they felt a part of an unfair system. Which is arguable. There’s plenty of people who try to take advantage or take the opportunity to knock you down as less-than because of your financial situation when you are that poor. Life is different. The world in which you live is very different. I don’t know every detail, all I know is it’s not as easy to judge as someone who doesn’t have or hasn’t had those hardships.

            Sorry to belabor the point, but it’s also worth pointing out that even from a more pragmatic standpoint, we know that overly punitive sentences result in more recidivism across different types of crime, especially if you’re exacerbating the reason they might’ve done it in the first place.

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      Yeah but the FO is way too excessive. This man will likely be homeless when he retires or end up working at a 7-11 into his 70s at this rate. All for seven bucks.

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        This was presumably just some government-job-specific pension. Japanese law requires paying into a pension scheme so it is doubtful that this is all he had. We also have iDECO and NISA which are like IRA/401k systems.

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          Following the 4% rule (not sure how applicable to Japanese investing this is), $84K would yield ~$280/month. Hopefully this isn’t all he had.

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      Yeah. Of course, I feel sorry for him, but when he stole in front of a camera he had to know about, well…

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        Right. Because he’s the unluckiest man alive, and he got caught the first time he ever stole 🙄

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        He was caught stealing 7$, he likely stole a lot more over his 30 years. I think a precedent should be set and it should be an example in mandatory training.