• amanneedsamaid@sopuli.xyz
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    4 days ago

    I think that’s obtuse, comedy has no limits: As long as you don’t act upon uncomfortable / morally reprehensible ideas you joke about, you aren’t any worse or better than if you had never joked about it. I would argue that exposing a bunch of people for what they joke about with no evidence that they’ve actually done something wrong is far worse than joking about offensive subjects. (one has zero negative affects, the other has many)

    (I must say I disagree completely with that guy sharing messages from his girlfriend- that piece is very weird and a total breach of trust)

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      4 days ago

      Keep in mind the source of this story. The author has every reason to describe the stuff on their group chat sound tame, so if it sounds bad, it’s probably 3 times worse than that.

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      (I must say I disagree completely with that guy sharing messages from his girlfriend- that piece is very weird and a total breach of trust)

      My impression from the original post was that kind of stuff was what drove most of the fallout. Leaked off color memes aren’t going to ruin people’s relationships, but leaked shit talk or breaches of someone else’s privacy will.

      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        3 days ago

        but leaked shit talk or breaches of someone else’s privacy will.

        shit talk and leaking messages is pretty bad, but that’s really common these days unfortunately. I wonder how frequently texts like that are shared between female group chats. Depends on the person, and the group, but they are just more connected.

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          Speaking ill of someone not present to defend themselves is commonly in bad tastes, imo. Commonality of occurrence certainly doesn’t make it any less wrongful. I don’t think it’s a gender specific issue based on the story being about guys doing this.

          • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            2 days ago

            i’m not saying it is, but from what i understand women tend to have a more cohesive social group, and tend to talk about things between them a lot more, so it would reason that there is a larger chance of stuff like this breaking out into that conversation.

            Men just don’t really talk about their personal lives all that much. And when they do it’s usually shitposting.

            Speaking ill of someone not present to defend themselves is commonly in bad tastes, imo.

            to be clear, i would generally agree with this, unless it’s understand to be venting/not seriously considered. It might be weird in the latter half, but it’s a lot less rude if it’s an inside joke specifically among a group of people.

            I don’t think it’s a gender specific issue based on the story being about guys doing this.

            and to be fair, if we’re going full gender difference analysis, i think guys are a lot more likely to have a group chat like this, than women, so there’s that.