I didn’t mean for this post to cause a bunch of arguing in the comments =(

I thought this was just some gallows humor (e.g. “Everything’s lovely except that I have to fear for my safety all the time”) type of shitpost that sounded similar to comments I’ve heard from women irl a lot.

  • zxqwas@lemmy.world
    2·
    13 hours ago

    I like to do a fun exercise every time I read something like this.

    Swap the word for who you are accusing with some other group. If this make the statement distasteful then the statement is distasteful in it’s orginal form.

    The Left like to blame men, the right like to blame immigrants so for example: “it’s a shame immigrants love to commit murder”.

    Why is it okay to say men love to murder but not immigrants?

  • 🎨 Elaine Cortez 🇨🇦 @lemm.eeEnglish
    9·
    1 day ago

    As a girl, I love taking walks in the evening/night or early in the morning, they really are a vibe! However if there’s a man who appears to be following behind me, I always grab my keys in my pocket to be ready to fight in case he tries anything. I will also text friends/family when I’m going out and text them when I arrive back home.

  • hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    196·
    2 days ago

    I’m disappointed in Lemmy and lemmings, I thought we left this shit in Reddit. Can someone lock this dumpsterfire of a comment section already?

  • bawdy@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    5·
    2 days ago

    That sucks man. I love night walks too, especially through secluded areas and when it’s super dark, overcast and windy. There is something very enjoyable and exhilarating about being outside, invisible and unnoticed in a busy world. I feel bad that you don’t get to enjoy that.

  • 2ugly2live@lemmy.world
    7019·
    3 days ago

    Random woman: I like late night walks, but I’m scared for my safety.

    This thread for some reason: YOU DON’T THINK MEN GET SCARED? MURDERED!?

    Like, chill. Yes, men can absolutely be murdered/hurt walking alone. But are we really going to sit here and act like women are making up their concerns/grievances out of spite? For some reason, if anyone mentions a general concern/issue related to women’s experiences with men, some people trip over themselves to say how it’s actually not an issue and how it’s actually so much worse for men. If I’m listening to a male DV victim and I go, “well, actually, women are more likely to be victims of DV. You know, it’s actually not even an issue for you. Here, look at these numbers that prove that women are the victims. Do you not mention it because you hate women? Why are you trying to ruin our spotless reputation as delicate flowers that can do no wrong with your lies”, you would think I was nuts, and for good reason.

  • ‮redirtSdeR@lemmy.worldEnglish
    208·
    2 days ago

    damnn these comments are why i don’t recommend this platform to anyone i know.

    i think i’m going to change instances after this.

  • lurklurk@lemmy.world
    6935·
    3 days ago

    If you see something like this and get angry at women, you have a problem.

    At best it’s a problem with reading comprehension. At worst, you’re worried that things like this could get in the way of your murdering-women hobby.

  • Blue_Morpho@lemmy.world
    17214·
    3 days ago

    I blame women.

    For not murdering enough. The streets would be safer if men had the same fear.

    • Moc@lemmy.world
      489·
      3 days ago

      I blame women.

      😡🍴

      For not murdering enough

      😮‍💨👍

    • doingthestuff@lemy.lolEnglish
      176·
      3 days ago

      Men are killed more often. But men generally have less fear. We go boldly unto death.

        • TheGrandNagus@lemmy.worldEnglish
          61·
          2 days ago

          Predominantly other men. But that doesn’t make it ok.

          Relax, David, you might get attacked or killed on your way back from work, but I don’t feel sympathy, because it’d probably be done by another man.

          The reality is anybody can feel unsafe at night, and everyone is valid in thinking so. Women generally feel more threatened because, despite being far less likely to be targeted, they’re also far less likely to be able to resist their attacker, which is also very reasonable.

          • Lunar@lemmy.ml
            52·
            2 days ago

            i didn’t say it makes it okay or that i’m not sympathetic. this thread is full of “but what about men tho” takes to discredit the fear women reasonably have of being attacked by men. they don’t have to worry about women nearly as much. the original post stands true regardless of whether or not men are also affected, which they are, and perhaps they should consider doing something about it instead of just dismissing the concern all together because it came from a woman.

      • Shou@lemmy.world
        21·
        3 days ago

        That’s not being bold, that’s supression of risk assesment and reduction on consequence sensitivity. Brought on by testosterone.

    • juan@lemmings.world
      936·
      3 days ago

      Wow calling for the death of innocent people based on gender.

      The fuck is wrong with Lemmy upvotng this.